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Meg Casey's handicapped issues column

Everyone has some handicap

Meg Casey

Dear Meg,

I read your column weekly and I find it as an advocate of the handicapped you help us all of us, for we all have handicaps, Visible and invisible. I have an invisible handicap. The fear of rejection. This is most troublesome but especially when I go for a job interview. So filled with this fear of rejection I can't project myself in a favorable manner. Before I go into an interview room, I know that the answer will be “we’ll call you." I know this fear makes me look incapable of doing a good job and I am good; I can do the job for which I have studied and trained. I am good my work and can prove it once I get the chance.

I know that you're not afraid of rejection. What is your great secret?

From someone who is just plain afraid!

Dear J.P.A.;

Don't presume too much for my steely nerves buddy! Everyone has a fear of rejection as some time or another. It just may be that some of us are better at hiding our shakiness under the guise of an overly cocky beast. My own technique is to smile harder, talk wittier year (half witty) and sit still. I have a hard time selling myself too, only I am make jokes out of it and no one believes me, but I do. I could be physically ill sometimes for the worrying I've done over the impression I might have made on people. Somehow it has always worked out in the end. Not always without broken eggs in my basket and me with the telltale stains on my shirt but … so what. It is only a shirt and I can change it if I want to.

It may not work out to have been the way my plans were originally set up for either. I then fall back on my grandmother's expression for these types of situations."What's to be, is to be – is to be.“ Translation: if it was meant to be, it will. It is not, it won't. Relax and meditate on that a while.

If that doesn't help to calm you find please find reassurance in the knowledge that even famous actors and actresses and entertainers break out into a cold sweat and throw up in their dressing rooms before walking out on stage on opening night. And they know that their fans love them if they fall on their faces or not.

So you and I are in good company. Maybe there is a market not yet targeted by industry for us champion Knee-Knockers?

You might also give serious consideration to taking a class for public speaking or trying one for acting. This is a really good way to learn to role play, and practice being someone else in your position.

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