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"Most Able Disabled"

Meg Casey's handicapped issues column

Human beings are funny things, like nuts

Getting material to write about

Meg Casey
January 23 1984

Dear Readers,

It is hard for me to believe that a full year has gone by since I began to write this column and that a second has been started. I have been and am enjoying myself tremendously. The questions and topics that I have chosen have come from the many people who have written me letters about their concerns and from those I have met out in public as I have been going about living my own day.

Each of these modes of a collecting information holds its own individual benefits or rewards. While letter writing can afford to those who choose - the comfortable shield of anonymity - as well as the time to phrase your precise thoughts, doubts and fears perfectly and in as much detail as desired, the chance meeting between people lends the experience a simple spontaneity that can be fun whether someone rushes up in excitement and blurts something out just because they have seen me, or whether they want to throw it at me before they have lost their nerve to ask at all. These meetings give the added benefit of some form of instant response to the more impatient souls and allows me an opportunity to catch a glimpse of the personality inside the very bold people, or sometimes very timid people, that are given away through body language and facial expressions.

I would be severely pressed to choose my favorite of the two modes for getting material to write about when both hold different and definite clues for me to begin with in my attempt to sort out the appropriate angle in order to view and address a request or problem.

What kind of people ask me questions?

All kinds, sizes and shapes don’t seem to make much of a difference. Human beings are funny things, like nuts (Some of us are nuts) Once I strip away the outer shell of the bodies and get down to the people inside I find that every one is mushy or nutty to some degree and hiding their own secret insecurities, many times even from themselves. Those insecurities can then usually be untangled and found to fit into the same type of molds that someone else’s came from.

The able-bodied people who contact me are either family, friends, acquaintances of a disabled individual or just plain curious. The disabled people who contact me can be broken down into three kinds of groups. Those born with a disability; those disabled by accident or illness; and those who have a naturally grown into the category sometime in their sunset years.

The elderly are often grouped with the disabled whether the individuals actually physically fit the classification or not. The cries from within the groups are often in accord with the a disgruntled opinion of this kind of herding. Mass herding does not allow individualism nor independence, nor advancement gained through the recognition of an individual’s potential and accomplishments.

Example; Little people are not always "little" people; disabled people are not all "retarded" intellectually; elderly people are not all "senile." (So speaketh the wee voice of experience!)

Heard this one? "Do onto others as you would like them to do onto you!"

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